Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Brian Belovitch

64. BRIAN BELOVITCH – cis-gay male of trans experience

Brian identifies as a cis-gay male of trans experience. We talk about being different and growing up in the 60s and 70s, looking for validation, living a fantasy life, performing the role of perfect woman, dealing with judgement, how everyone’s journey is unique, finding a different way to be comfortable, and going full circle and reaching a new destination. [Transcript coming soon.]

Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Greyson

58. GREYSON – trans man, xenogender (wolfgender), furry

Greyson is a trans man, but identifies with wolfgender, which is a xenogender. We also talk about discovering your identity through playing someone else, separating gender from male/female, man/woman and masculine/feminine, how queer identities are a lot of work, self-medicating with testosterone, respecting artistry and artists by paying them well, and how gender journeys are a great way to get to know yourself deeper. [Transcript coming soon.]

Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic for Reflections (part 2) with Katy Jon Went & Esther Lemmens

50. Reflections (part 2) – discoveries so far

In this second Reflections episode, Katy interviews Esther as she reflects on further conversations she’s had with gender-diverse folks, what she’s learned about gender, as well as her own journey and how she and the podcast have evolved almost a year since the podcast started. We also talk about expectations, finding the essence of each conversation, the subtleties of language, intuition and setting intentions, awareness and facets of identity, assigned titles, smart business decisions, the discomfort of learning, and discovering ourselves as we go. [Transcript coming soon.]

Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Hannah Watson

22. HANNAH WATSON – transgender

Hannah is transgender, and although not fond of labels, the terms non-binary and asexual semi-resonate with her as well. We also talk about gender identity versus biology versus sexuality, to what degree gender defines you, why the term ‘gender confirmation surgery’ is a better term than ‘gender reassignment surgery’ and ‘sex change’, conforming to society’s norms, and ‘unconventional’ types of love, attraction, intimacy and relationships. [Transcript available.]

Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Bonnie Bakeneko

10. BONNIE BAKENEKO – trans-masculine, non-binary, graysexual

Bonnie identifies as trans-masculine, non-binary and greysexual. We talk about Dissociative Identity Disorder or DID (previously called Multiple Personality Disorder or MPD), gender dysphoria, body dysmorphia, drag, self-expression, body autonomy, radical tenderness and vulnerability, choosing kindness, being a flawed being rather than good or bad, spoon theory, and how the body could be considered a forest rather than a temple. CW: dental trauma, sexual abuse, exposure therapy, fetish, piercing, scarification, nullification, self-cannibalism. [Transcript available.]