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Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Tash Corbin

99. TASH CORBIN – neurodivergent, non-binary, genderfluid woman, queer

Tash is neurodivergent, non-binary, a genderfluid woman, and queer. Find out what that means to Tash in this episode. We talk about what is non-conforming enough, the experience of being sexualised, how showing up with our imperfections builds connection, marginalisation and intersectionality, how we all have internalised misogyny, racism, homophobia and transphobia, seeing each other’s humanity, and feeling safe to be yourself. [Transcript coming soon.]

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Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Kate Brookes

97. KATE BROOKES – parent of a transgender child

Kate is the parent of a transgender child. We talk about the challenges of deciding on a name, being in transition as a family, the privilege of having access to an accepting community, how important it is to be an ally and educate ourselves, that acceptance is protection, and telling stories in a responsible way. [Transcript coming soon.]

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Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Chris Talbot-Heindl

96. CHRIS TALBOT-HEINDL – transgender, non-binary, asexual, panromantic

Chris is transgender, non-binary, asexual and panromantic. We also talk about how labels can mean something different each day, that the gender binary is a colonial construct, gender fuckery and gender abundance, cultural influences on gender, what allyship is and what it’s not, how to take accountability, feeling safe in ourselves, dismantling internalised belief systems, and making space for abundance. [Transcript coming soon.]

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Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Joris Grey

95. JORIS GREY – trans, trans man, queer

Joris is a trans man, and queer. We talk about being comfortable in your body, getting the method of application right when going on hormones, the importance of representation, the need to focus more on the thriving of trans people rather than the struggle, the difference between sustainable and regenerative, and allowing ourselves to create a big vision for ourselves and the world. [Transcript coming soon.]

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Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Rachel Dover

94. RACHEL DOVER – transgender female

Rachel is a transgender female. We also talk about being transgender vs having gender dysphoria, how coming out is a process, transitioning during covid, the actual and hidden cost of transition, how hard it is to get a GRC (Gender Recognition Certificate), how the term ‘TERF’ has evolved, and feeling like yourself. [Transcript coming soon.]

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Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Fabian Webb Brown

93. FABIAN WEBB BROWN – trans(gender) man

Fabian is a trans(gender) man. We also talk about transitioning in your teenage years, what it’s like to be pregnant as a trans man, accessing reproductive care while navigating an outdated system that doesn’t distinguish between sex and gender, and becoming comfortable in your gender identity.[Transcript coming soon.]

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Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Finley Areset Brand

92. FINLEY ARESET BRAND – transgender, non-binary, agender, demigirl [autigender]

Finley is transgender, non-binary, agender, and a demigirl. Autigender is another label they are considering adding. They are also autistic, polyamorous, and kinky. We also talk about the connection between facets of identity including gender, neurodivergence, polyamory and kink, feeling safe to be authentic, reclaiming childhood and nurturing the inner child, misconceptions about kink and sex work, body appreciation and recovering from an eating disorder, and trying to function in a society that’s constructed for people who are not disabled. [Transcript coming soon.]

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Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Harris Eddie Hill (2)

91. HARRIS EDDIE HILL #2 – agender, non-binary, trans (with a dash of ‘boy’)

Harris is agender, non-binary, and trans (with a dash of ‘boy’). We talk about being on testosterone, embodying queerness in intimate relationships, finding safety in yourself, navigating family dynamics and having consensual conversations, the importance of having access to a supportive community, what it was like living through Section 28 times, allyship and inclusivity, and exploring kink. [Transcript coming soon.]

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Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Cleo Madeleine

89. CLEO MADELEINE – queer, trans, woman

Cleo is queer, trans, and a woman. Join us as we briefly go down a rabbit hole of queer history and time, talking about the entanglement of sexuality and gender, linguistic limitations, the intersection of history, language, and identity, what is left out of history, the construct of normativity, levels of activism, and the many ways things can get lost in translation. [Transcript coming soon.]

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Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Lux

88. LUX – queer, genderfluid, polygender, non-conforming man

Lux is a queer, genderfluid, polygender, non-conforming man. We also talk about seeing labels as a field, the need for softness as well as radicality in activism, how gender identity is separate from gender expression, the pathologising of queer identities, not being able to simplify your complexity into a static gender, how gender plurality and sexual fluidity intertwine, and not leaving any part of us out. [Transcript coming soon.]

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Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Brianne Leeson

87. BRIANNE LEESON – autigender, bisexual, polyamorous, demi-romantic

Brianne is autigender, as well as bisexual, polyamorous, and demi-romantic. We also talk about doing womanhood differently and the infinite flavours of gender and gender expression, accidental polyamory and unpacking social and religious conditioning, what we can learn about communication from autistic people, sensory issues and how they shape expression, finding freedom in embracing your neurodivergence, and questioning everything. [Transcript coming soon.]

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Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Izzy Kershaw

86. IZZY KERSHAW – transgender woman, bisexual, ADHD

Izzy is a transgender woman. She’s also bisexual and has ADHD. We also talk about how big a part of identity gender is and how that can change, the importance of making the distinction between sex and gender in healthcare, being trans in the music industry, an enlightening acid trip, how music can take people on a journey, the innateness of gender from the perspective of brain science, and the desire to belong. [Transcript coming soon.]

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83. LOLA PHOENIX – agender, non-binary, queer

Lola is agender, non-binary, and queer. We also talk about being accidentally gender non-conforming, not relating to normative experiences, prioritising action over language, the power in choosing our response, what we do versus who we are, the similarities between an unconventional gender journey and exploring alternative relationship styles, solidarity and the need to unite, the importance of understanding and regulating our nervous system, and being safe within ourselves. [Transcript coming soon.]

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Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Angela Locashio

82. ANGELA LOCASHIO – autistic, queer, genderqueer woman

Angela is an autistic, queer, genderqueer woman. We also talk about following social scripts and role playing, how authenticity and performance are not mutually exclusive, vulnerability, understanding all parts of ourselves, how we are wired to choose acceptance over authenticity, being yourself in the workplace, the intersection between gender and neurodivergence, and how we are all normal. [Transcript coming soon.]

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Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Fleassy Malay

81. FLEASSY MALAY – queer, gender-diverse, neurodiverse, genderfluid woman

Fleassy is a queer, gender-diverse, neurodiverse genderfluid woman.. We also talk about embracing the validity of the phases we go through, belonging in both women’s spaces and queer spaces, inclusive language and adding more nuance to conversations, internalised shame and being willing to confront our own conditioning, having observations rather than answers, how sacred rage can change the world, and playing in all the spaces. [Transcript coming soon.]

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Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Anne Hodder-Shipp

80. ANNE HODDER-SHIPP – queer femme, neurodivergent, ADHD (agender, non-binary, demigirl)

Anne is a queer femme. They’re also neurodivergent with a recent ADHD diagnosis. She doesn’t have language that totally feels right, but says that sometimes agender, non-binary, and demigirl work. We also talk about not having a sense of belonging, feeling safe in your skin, self-soothing and meeting yourself where you’re at, upholding meaning over language at all cost, how the gender binary is weaponised, that a new awareness of reality is often accompanied by a mourning process, looking at love languages through a different lens, and reframing the concepts of love, touch, and relationships. [Transcript coming soon.]

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79. CHRISTINE TOKLEY – trans woman, non-conforming, disabled, neurodivergent

Christine identifies as a trans woman and is also non-conforming, disabled and neurodivergent. We also talk about how the spectrum of physical biological sex and that of the social construct of gender overlap, the idea of sex dysphoria rather than gender dysphoria, medical transition vs social transition and being comfortable on the inside first, supporting people in a way that works for them, the difference in how we all perceive reality including gender, the need for nuance as well as simplification, how being aware of intention can benefit communication, and building bridges between our understanding and others’. [Transcript coming soon.]

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78. CLAIRE PROSHO – transgender woman, bisexual, ADHD

Claire is a transgender woman. We also talk about the lack of female role models in the 70s, trying to reconcile the expected side and the authentic side of us, the entanglement of gender, mental health and neurodivergence, feeling like yourself for the first time, reframing gendered activities, Identifying as vs identifying with, gender alignment rather than transition, and having more stories to tell. [Transcript coming soon.]

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77. JENN – genderfree, autistic, fat

Jenn is genderfree, and she also gave us the labels autistic and fat. We also talk about choosing your own gender badges, the absurdity of assigned gender roles, being conscious of gender-neutral language, how autism in women is underdiagnosed, the limited choices when it comes to clothes, the balance of body neutrality, the various struggles fat people face, and putting the rainbow first rather than it being an afterthought. [Transcript coming soon.]

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76. SKIN – queer

Skin is a queer person. We talk about stepping stones to new language, the obsession with beauty in the gay community, breaking gender roles, given names and designing your own sense of self, a cultural sense of identity, expanding on feminism, marriage and motherhood, chosen family and learning how to love each other, staying open and giving people a chance to change their minds, and how we need to join forces and stop fighting each other. [Transcript coming soon.]

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75. Reflections (part 3) – discoveries so far

In this third Reflections episode, Katy interviews Esther as she reflects on further conversations she’s had with gender-diverse folks, what she’s learned about gender, as well as her own journey and how she and the podcast have evolved. We also talk about imposter syndrome, intuition and following the flow, prioritising self-care, expanding on pronouns, improvising and thinking on the spot, reclaiming labels, coming out of the spiritual closet, how the lines between being on the outside and being on the inside are blurring, and that being an ally benefits us all; not just those we are being allies for. [Transcript coming soon.]

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74. A Clear Perspective on Gender – a channeled message from Oron and Medha

Medha is a direct voice channel for Oron. Oron start by talking about what it takes for Medha to allow this energy to come through, and then about expansion and going beyond right and wrong, external and internal division, how truth lies on a spectrum, reclaiming your sense of self-worth, power versus force, coming into inner harmony, what self-love really is, and returning to wholeness. [Transcript coming soon.]

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