Welcome to the Fifty Shades of Gender podcast!

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Please note: these conversations represent experiences, viewpoints and opinions of the guests, and not necessarily those of the host or project. The content is not intended to be taken as personal or medical advice. We have no control over external sources mentioned in the episodes and/or the episode pages, which are shared for reference purposes only.

From October 2021, the podcast will change from weekly episodes to fortnightly episodes (every 2 weeks).

If you feel your story would be a good fit for the podcast, get in touch.

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Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Kai Grey

84. KAI GREY – trans-masculine, transgender, queer (non-binary)

Kai is trans-masculine, transgender, queer, and a tad non-binary. We also talk about the importance of representation, experiencing intimacy and sex and navigating expected as well as unexpected changes being on T (testosterone), consent and re-establishing boundaries, separating masculinity and femininity from body parts, qualities, and dynamics like dominance & submission, and never being done with transitioning. [Transcript coming soon.]

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Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Lola Phoenix

83. LOLA PHOENIX – agender, non-binary, queer

Lola is agender, non-binary, and queer. We also talk about being accidentally gender non-conforming, not relating to normative experiences, prioritising action over language, the power in choosing our response, what we do versus who we are, the similarities between an unconventional gender journey and exploring alternative relationship styles, solidarity and the need to unite, the importance of understanding and regulating our nervous system, and being safe within ourselves. [Transcript coming soon.]

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Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Angela Locashio

82. ANGELA LOCASHIO – autistic, queer, genderqueer woman

Angela is an autistic, queer, genderqueer woman. We also talk about following social scripts and role playing, how authenticity and performance are not mutually exclusive, vulnerability, understanding all parts of ourselves, how we are wired to choose acceptance over authenticity, being yourself in the workplace, the intersection between gender and neurodivergence, and how we are all normal. [Transcript coming soon.]

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Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Fleassy Malay

81. FLEASSY MALAY – queer, gender-diverse, neurodiverse, genderfluid woman

Fleassy is a queer, gender-diverse, neurodiverse genderfluid woman.. We also talk about embracing the validity of the phases we go through, belonging in both women’s spaces and queer spaces, inclusive language and adding more nuance to conversations, internalised shame and being willing to confront our own conditioning, having observations rather than answers, how sacred rage can change the world, and playing in all the spaces. [Transcript coming soon.]

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Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Anne Hodder-Shipp

80. ANNE HODDER-SHIPP – queer femme, neurodivergent, ADHD (agender, non-binary, demigirl)

Anne is a queer femme. They’re also neurodivergent with a recent ADHD diagnosis. She doesn’t have language that totally feels right, but says that sometimes agender, non-binary, and demigirl work. We also talk about not having a sense of belonging, feeling safe in your skin, self-soothing and meeting yourself where you’re at, upholding meaning over language at all cost, how the gender binary is weaponised, that a new awareness of reality is often accompanied by a mourning process, looking at love languages through a different lens, and reframing the concepts of love, touch, and relationships. [Transcript coming soon.]

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Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Christine Tokley

79. CHRISTINE TOKLEY – trans woman, non-conforming, disabled, neurodivergent

Christine identifies as a trans woman and is also non-conforming, disabled and neurodivergent. We also talk about how the spectrum of physical biological sex and that of the social construct of gender overlap, the idea of sex dysphoria rather than gender dysphoria, medical transition vs social transition and being comfortable on the inside first, supporting people in a way that works for them, the difference in how we all perceive reality including gender, the need for nuance as well as simplification, how being aware of intention can benefit communication, and building bridges between our understanding and others’. [Transcript coming soon.]

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Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Claire Prosho

78. CLAIRE PROSHO – transgender woman, bisexual, ADHD

Claire is a transgender woman. We also talk about the lack of female role models in the 70s, trying to reconcile the expected side and the authentic side of us, the entanglement of gender, mental health and neurodivergence, feeling like yourself for the first time, reframing gendered activities, Identifying as vs identifying with, gender alignment rather than transition, and having more stories to tell. [Transcript coming soon.]

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Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Jenn

77. JENN – genderfree, autistic, fat

Jenn is genderfree, and she also gave us the labels autistic and fat. We also talk about choosing your own gender badges, the absurdity of assigned gender roles, being conscious of gender-neutral language, how autism in women is underdiagnosed, the limited choices when it comes to clothes, the balance of body neutrality, the various struggles fat people face, and putting the rainbow first rather than it being an afterthought. [Transcript coming soon.]

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76. SKIN – queer

Skin is a queer person. We talk about stepping stones to new language, the obsession with beauty in the gay community, breaking gender roles, given names and designing your own sense of self, a cultural sense of identity, expanding on feminism, marriage and motherhood, chosen family and learning how to love each other, staying open and giving people a chance to change their minds, and how we need to join forces and stop fighting each other. [Transcript coming soon.]

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75. Reflections (part 3) – discoveries so far

In this third Reflections episode, Katy interviews Esther as she reflects on further conversations she’s had with gender-diverse folks, what she’s learned about gender, as well as her own journey and how she and the podcast have evolved. We also talk about imposter syndrome, intuition and following the flow, prioritising self-care, expanding on pronouns, improvising and thinking on the spot, reclaiming labels, coming out of the spiritual closet, how the lines between being on the outside and being on the inside are blurring, and that being an ally benefits us all; not just those we are being allies for. [Transcript coming soon.]

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74. A Clear Perspective on Gender – a channeled message from Oron and Medha

Medha is a direct voice channel for Oron. Oron start by talking about what it takes for Medha to allow this energy to come through, and then about expansion and going beyond right and wrong, external and internal division, how truth lies on a spectrum, reclaiming your sense of self-worth, power versus force, coming into inner harmony, what self-love really is, and returning to wholeness. [Transcript coming soon.]

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73. PAIGE LOEWEN – partner of a transgender woman

Paige is married to a transgender woman, who came out to her in October 2020. They’ve been married for 16 years and have two children. We also talk about being married to a troubled person, becoming more bold and growing into your skin, learning to communicate our needs, the freedom in speaking your truth, going through your own journeys together, that it’s ok to not put a label on yourself, and how we may find ourselves in one closet or another. [Transcript coming soon.]

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Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Talea Boelsems

72. TALEA BOELSEMS – agender, metagender

Talea is agender and metagender. We get philosophical and dig deeper into gender identity, and we talk about the challenges with finding language for something just beyond our grasp, nature vs nurture and what is innate in our identity, and peeling away layers and finding nothing. [Transcript coming soon.]

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71. RENΓ‰E YOXON – trans, non-binary, genderqueer, maverique

RenΓ©e is non-binary trans. They also identify as maverique and back in the day, genderqueer. We also talk about being who you are right now, bridging the trans and cis experience, how ‘passing’ is morally neutral, internal vs societal perception of gender, simultaneously upholding and tearing down gender binaries, and how the voice is more nurture than nature. [Transcript coming soon.]

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70. REV ROWAN BOMBADIL – genderqueer shapeshifter & sex witch

RowanΒ is a genderqueer shapeshifter and sex witch. We also talk about deconstructing boxes and binaries, the link between gender, sex and magic, reclaiming the body and revealing more of ourselves, roleplay vs shapeshifting, multiplicity and spanning the gender spectrum, transformation through intention, and celebrating the sacred in ourselves. This episode finishes with a special solstice meditation. [Transcript coming soon.]

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69. ZELDA – intersex, trans-adjacent, disabled

Zelda is intersex and disabled, and refers to herself as trans-adjacent. We also talk about using fun vs boring as decision-making criteria as opposed to male vs female, having a gender identity as fluid as a body identity, knowing the science versus living the science, giving hope by being yourself, being a bridge between dualities, lucky genetic quirks, and being a special case. [Transcript coming soon.]

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68. ESTHER LOEWEN – transgender woman

EstherΒ is a transgender woman. We also talk about how coming out is an ongoing process, questions to ask yourself on the gender journey, finding hope in spirituality after trauma, grieving the loss of vocation, taking a leap of faith, embracing how god made us, integrating and honouring the old self, and entering the next chapter in life with dignity and grace. [Transcript coming soon.]

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67. LEONIE DAWSON – non-binary

LeonieΒ is non-binary. We also talk about honouring the land we inhabit, the freedom that came from adding a ‘they’ pronoun while having a ‘she’ experience, being non-conforming in business, the importance of having open and honest money conversations, knowing who you are inside and standing for what you believe in, kicking the social media habit, and smashing the patriarchy by being more of yourself. [Transcript coming soon.]

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66. ANNA SANSOM – genderqueer, gender-responsive, woman, queer dyke

Anna’s pronouns are she/her. She experiences herself as genderqueer and feels herself to be gender-responsive. We also talk about the energetic space between people, being responsive vs being reactive, how boxes can be constricting as well as expansive, playing with gender and sexuality, reclaiming the word ‘dyke’, self-healing through sexual experiences, liberating ourselves and writing our own story, pursuing desire, and why it’s more than ok to want more out of life. [Transcript coming soon.]

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65. Listener Questions (1) – terminology explained

This episode is a slightly different one again; the first of a Listener Questions series. I’m answering a question (or rather, responding to a request) from one of our listeners, Connie, who said “I would love to hear a podcast on the definition of terms used on the podcasts.” So here it is! [Transcript coming soon.]

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64. BRIAN BELOVITCH – cis-gay male of trans experience

Brian identifies as a cis-gay male of trans experience. We talk about being different and growing up in the 60s and 70s, looking for validation, living a fantasy life, performing the role of perfect woman, dealing with judgement, how everyone’s journey is unique, finding a different way to be comfortable, and going full circle and reaching a new destination. [Transcript coming soon.]

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63. JEN HARTMANN – non-binary, bigender

Jen is non-binary and also identifies as bigender. We also talk about growing up with a very gendered language, being expected to fit into cultural and gendered stereotypes, disrupting the fashion industry and the future of innovation, how clothes are an integral part of gender expression, navigating entrepreneurship and the challenges that come with doing your own thing, surrendering to divine timing, and that one size does not fit all. [Transcript coming soon.]

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62. JACOB PROFITT – non-binary, gay, drag queen

JacobΒ identifies as a gay non-binary person. We also talk about the freedom that comes with going to university, societal conditioning around masculine and feminine binaries, exploring gender identity through drag, being non-binary in education, feeling attracted to male presenting people as opposed to masculinity, and being inspired by a younger generation. [Transcript available.]

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61. DOROTHY ‘THYO’ PIERRE-LOUIS – non-binary, trans-masculine, bigender, toric, graysexual

Dorothy Pierre-Louis – nickname Thyo (pronounced like Theo) – is non-binary and also uses the labels bigender and trans-masculine, as well as toric and graysexual. We also talk about discovering identities beyond the binary, having the language to describe how you feel, experiencing attraction to attributes like softer and firmer rather than gender, being on the asexual spectrum as a raunchy person, aesthetic stereotypes and how they can vary by culture or country, and the challenges that arise when trying to communicate who you are to the outside world. [Transcript coming soon.]

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60. EMME PORTER DeWITT – agender [transgender, nonbinary], queer [demisexual+]

Emme is agender and also identifies as transgender, non-binary, queer and demisexual. We also talk about how we all have our own unique flavour of humanity, making sense of attractions, the importance of emotional connection, building your own blueprint for relationships, the possibilities in the term queer, being a solo advocate, how parents can build a healthy relationship with their gender-expansive kids, and getting rid of the boxes altogether. [Transcript coming soon.]

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