Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Fleassy Malay

Episode 81

A conversation with Fleassy Malay


57 min. Recorded on 3 May 2022. 

Fleassy uses they/them and she/her pronouns, and they are a queer, gender-diverse, neurodiverse genderfluid woman. Find out what that means to Fleassy in this episode.

We also talk about embracing the validity of the phases we go through, belonging in both women’s spaces and queer spaces, inclusive language and adding more nuance to conversations, internalised shame and being willing to confront our own conditioning, having observations rather than answers, how sacred rage can change the world, and playing in all the spaces.

“Just because I’m now able to name that part of me that is fluid means that I have to denounce the part of me that identifies as woman doesn’t feel right.”

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TRANSCRIPT [expand to read] – COMING SOON

Fleassy acknowledges that they live, work, and play on the lands of the Wurundjeri People of the Kulin Nation. This land is, and always will be, Aboriginal Land.

About Fleassy

Two times TEDx speaker and viral poet, Fleassy Malay is an Internationally renowned, evocative and powerful spoken word artist, performer, and writer. A global advocate for Women’s rights, LGBTQI+ visibility, and a fierce voice for the power of authenticity and courage as a social change tool. A self-identified queer, erotic, spiritual, mother she has a theatrical and yet deeply authentic performance and writing style, renowned for captivating their audiences with depth, honesty, and humour. They now write and present regularly to their online community of over 20k followers with poetry, talks, and opinion pieces.

You can find Fleassy on their website, on Instagram @FleassyMalay, on Facebook @FleassyM, on Spotify and on YouTube. Fleassy also has a podcast called Fierce-Gentle: The Courageous Voice Podcast.

What we discussed & useful links

WITCHES – A Poem by Fleassy Malay

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