A conversation with Dean Rasmussen
TRANSGENDER, TRANS MAN, TRANS-MASCULINE, GENDERQUEER, NON-BINARY, PANSEXUAL
43 min. Recorded on 17 June 2021.
Dean uses he/they pronouns. He is a trans man, but they also resonate with the labels trans-masculine, genderqueer and non-binary. Find out what that means to Dean in this episode.
We also talk about being a non-binary parent, separating the role of nurturer from gender, experiencing dysphoria in pregnancy, gender assumptions and how we are perceived, how testosterone can affect attraction, and the freedom that can come from trying out names and pronouns.
“I very much hang on to the fact that I am a trans man…as much as I know who I am and I know that I’m a guy, but…if I’m just a man that erases 40 years of life experiences for myself.”
TRANSCRIPT [expand to read] – COMING SOON
Dean (he/they) is a transgender man rebelling against the binary every chance they can. He and his partner Julie are parents to 8 remarkably unique humans, two of which are also trans. With a coming out story spanning nearly 20 years, a few sexualities and more than one gender, Dean has finally discovered what it means to live their most authentic life and spends his days teaching others how to do the same. Dean is a Life Coach whose passions are empowering the LGBTQ2S community, especially later in life transgender folks, parenting and personal growth. In many ways they’re just your everyday guy, in other ways, he is quite the anomaly!
By @rebeccaminorlicsw adapted from @transgender_together via Mx Lupin @tanesh.lupin
CISGENDER IDENTITY CHALLENGE:
1. Describe your gender.
2. Explain how you know you are that gender.
• You can’t reference body parts (“I know I’m a woman because I have …”).
• You can’t use gender terms/language (“I know I’m a man because I feel masculine”).
3. Consider the privilege of not having to answer questions like this to prove the validity of your gender identity.
4. Reflect on your experience.