Creator. Artist. Rebel with a cause. Budding writer and podcaster. Magic maker. Intuitive. Mother of cats. Cisgender, pansexual, queer, and a dedicated ally to the gender-diverse.

Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Lor

53. LOR – intersex, non-binary, demiboy, bigender

Lor is non-binary, and intersex – assigned female at birth but genetically male – and she is figuring things out when it comes to gender identities, currently working with the labels demiboy and bigender. We also talk about hormone therapy, the vagueness of consent when it comes to medical procedures and the lack of knowledge about intersex variations in the medical profession, reclaiming body autonomy, the wonder that is foetal development, the difference between sex, gender identity and sexual orientation, and why doing identity work is a good idea. [Transcript coming soon.]

Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Dean Rasmussen

52. DEAN RASMUSSEN – transgender, trans man, trans-masculine, genderqueer, non-binary, pansexual

Dean is a trans man, but they also resonate with the labels trans-masculine, genderqueer and non-binary. We also talk about being a non-binary parent, separating the role of nurturer from gender, experiencing dysphoria in pregnancy, gender assumptions and how we are perceived, how testosterone can affect attraction, and the freedom that can come from trying out names and pronouns. [Transcript coming soon.]

Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with J Laurence Sarno

51. J LAURENCE SARNO – trans man

Laurence generally describes himself as a trans man, but his joke about labels is that he’s everything in LGBTQIA except the ‘L’ and the ‘A’. We also talk about being perceived as you are, a very speedy transition journey, privilege, what we can learn from unconventional relationship styles, embracing who you are, unpacking judgements, and becoming your most authentic self. [Transcript coming soon.]

Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic for Reflections (part 2) with Katy Jon Went & Esther Lemmens

50. Reflections (part 2) – discoveries so far

In this second Reflections episode, Katy interviews Esther as she reflects on further conversations she’s had with gender-diverse folks, what she’s learned about gender, as well as her own journey and how she and the podcast have evolved almost a year since the podcast started. We also talk about expectations, finding the essence of each conversation, the subtleties of language, intuition and setting intentions, awareness and facets of identity, assigned titles, smart business decisions, the discomfort of learning, and discovering ourselves as we go. [Transcript coming soon.]

Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Cara Wilde

48. CARA WILDE – parent of a transgender teen

Cara has two children, one of whom is transgender. We also talk about questioning your gender and looking beyond body parts as a cis person, assumptions and misinformation about hormone/puberty blockers, supporting and empowering your child and watching them thrive, what it would be like if we were all free to explore gender, and why we should all question what’s considered normal. [Transcript coming soon.]

Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Helen Belcher

47. HELEN BELCHER – woman with a trans history

Helen is a woman with a trans history. We talk about the different faces of conversion therapy, losing your religion, being publicly trans in politics, systemic transphobia and holding the media accountable, how the bathroom argument is really about gender apartheid, voting for what we want rather than against what we don’t want, and how knowing the direction is more important than knowing the destination on the journey towards being more of yourself. [Transcript coming soon.]

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45. … – trans-androgynous, genderqueer, non-binary, abinary, maverique, bi/pan oriented aroace, multiply disabled

Jay uses the gender labels transandrogynous, genderqueer, nonbinary, abinary and maverique, as well as bi/pan oriented aroace and multiply disabled. what the label ‘queer’ can encompass, different types of attraction and how they can be experienced, love languages, anarchy and feminism, sovereignty versus autonomy, the issues with gender terminology in different languages, and feeling safe when you’re part of the minority of the minority. [Transcript coming soon.]

Fifty Shades of Gender podcast graphic with Tara Dax

44. TARA DAX – non-binary

Tara identifies as non-binary. As well as geeking out on Star Trek and conlangs (constructed languages), we dive deeper into masculine and feminine. We also talk about finding resonance in pronouns, meaning in a name and connection in a character, and debunking certain gender arguments people assume are rooted in biology. [Transcript coming soon.]