Imagine a world where we can all express who we are, in our own way, on our own terms. Where we can be truly ourselves; authentically, magnificently, and whole-heartedly.

That’s not the world we live in.

For many people, expressing who you are, having a voice and making it heard, is risky – especially for women, people of colour, disabled and neurodiverse people, and those in the LGBTIQ+ community.

Here in the West, it’s no easy feat, either.

Being who you are and expressing yourself can get you bullied, verbally abused, or beaten up.

That embeds a powerful message deep inside us.

That being visible is unsafe. 

That standing out makes you a target. 

Welcome to the Fifty Shades of Gender project. We want to help create a world where we can all shine as bright as we are, and become beacons to empower others to do the same.

How can we create such a world?

By showing up – even in small ways.

By supporting and standing up for others who are showing up.

By accepting and loving ourselves no matter what.

We want to create a spark to help ignite a fire of inclusion, acceptance and respect for all gender identities.

With the right conditions, a fire can become an inferno.

Join the movement.


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We would be so very grateful! Thank you 🙂